December 15, 2011

Are you Ready?

Are you ready for Christmas?  I almost am!  I still need to do a few small things like buy enough gift bags and send off my Christmas cards but I am about there.  Oh- I do have a sewing project to make but if that doesn't happen then I will just rejoice in the fact that I have a daughter with a birthday on Dec 31st!  Nothing like putting off something for another celebration and pretending you were totally on top of it.

This year my tendency to get it done early came back to bite me.  My husband was shopping with a couple kids for our family's secret Santa gift exchange and my oldest saw a book he has been pining for.  He had enough money to buy it for himself but my husband (knowing I had it in store for him for Christmas), would not let him buy it.  I am convinced more and more that the teenager stage is very similar to the terrible-two-tantrum stage, because the rest of the evening was just one big tantrum.  When he figured out why he couldn't buy his book he got super mad at me (of course me!) for always buying things too early.  I guess they should just call social services on me because I shop early.  Shame on me.

I really felt bad that I had a son who would have this illogical/spoiled reaction.  Telling me I ruin Christmas every year for him because I don't consider what he wants and give him enough time to come up with a wish list.  I am half tempted to give him nottin' for Christmas 'cause he ain't been nottin' but bad.  But part of me thinks that is just a revengeful thought.  We were just going to get him luggage for college but that seemed a bit sad so he had a few other real gifts... but now?  Not so sure...  Oh how I wish I had a magic 8 ball telling me what to do.

Another puzzle lately is Big Girl.  She just hasn't been herself lately.  I don't know if it's the anticipation of the holidays stressing her out, or a girl at school who has been a bit of a bully, or her big brothers teasing her but she is an emotional mess.  Maybe I am not so used to girls and their emotions.  She did have a bit of shell shock last week when cutting off all her hair to donate.  I thought that had worn off though.  This morning she was so blue I started getting worried.  The thought came to me while cleaning up the dishes that perhaps she just needs me to paint her nails with crackle nail polish.  She has been asking for some.  I have been meaning to get some.  But what she's really in need of isn't the manicure, it's the time with me.  It's my approval.  I hate the kinds of TV shows she chooses (Sonny with a Chance, Wizard's of Waverly Place),  and when I show my dislike for such shows claiming they are too mature for an 8 yr old she gets super offended.  Like I don't like her or something.  Should I give Sonny a chance? Or hold my ground here?  Not sure...

Before Big Cut

After
The look on her face says it all...
Now we just need to mail these braids to Locks of Love
Dear Santa what I really want this year for Christmas is the insight of my mother who is no longer here to ask advise from.  She'd know just how to fix these problems I keep having.  In the mean time I am off to buy crackle nail polish and try to paint my way back onto her good side today after school...

6 comments:

Erica said...

You are doing great Kelly! Keep up the good mothering! And for Sonny, I wouldn't give him anymore chances. We got rid of cable when we moved to the house we are in now and I am SOOO glad we got rid of that Disney Channel (personal opinion only). Do what you feel is best. And I am sorry your mother died so young. I know she would be (and is) SUPER proud of the job you are doing!

Kelly said...

We did get rid of cable too. The problem is they have found a way to get those stupid shows on Netflix... Sigh!

Thanks for your kind words Erica!

mCat said...

First off - love the cute new do on the little! I always love a cute bob and the fact that she is donating to Locks of love, just warms my heart

As for the teenagers and Christmas,hang in there. We went through years with one particular kid that nothing was ever right. EVER. Now as an adult, things have dramatically changed. They grow back their brain cells, I promise

Eileen said...

I'll take little girl moodiness any day over teenager boy angst. Can we make a swap for a while? I think love your daughter's haircut, but I know Maya was looking over my shoulder and literally gasped and said, "WHY did that girl cut off her GORGEOUS hair?!!" She's really into growing out her hair right now.

We'll all survive, right?

kati said...

hey kelly it sounds like you need to have a nice phone call with my mom. seriosly though. she's got all sorts of wisdom that she learned from your mom :)

Kelly said...

Kati
I already called her the night of Big Boy's tantrum. The big piece of advise she gave was that they grow out of it...