Does my title surprise you a bit? Sorry to be blunt. I have always thought that when approaching the topic of the birds and the bees that we shouldn't bring insects and flowers into the mix. It's just confusing. And I hate the symbolism of the bee flitting from flower to flower without commitment to any one flower, spreading pollen willy nilly without a care. I know the flower needs the pollen to produce more flowers and it's part of the cycle of life but when comparing that to human interaction, it leaves me a bit miffed. I believe in being up front and not giggling about it when you tell your kids. Practice saying all the body parts without smirking so your kids will follow suit and take you seriously... It's a good thing.
Tonight I had a conversation not involving birds or bees with my daughter Big Girl. I like to explain it to my kids before the playground version gets to them. She will be 8 in a couple of months. The others before her already knew the facts by this age. So, while I was wrapping presents for Little Girl's birthday party, I sprang the subject on her. Of course I was gentle. I told her about the sacred nature of intercourse. I emphasized the commitment levels that should be involved first. I told her that our bodies are amazing gifts that are sacred. I told her sex was enjoyable and that it was a way to show love, but only within the right boundaries.
I am always a bit surprised by the various responses I have had over the years having this talk with my kids. My first son was amazed by the biology aspect, my second son asked me a very important question "Are we done talking about this now?" and my third son said "So you guys have had sex 5 times!?" Big Girls reaction made me think that perhaps I had spoken to her about this sensitive subject a bit too soon. Her big query was if Santa and Mrs Claus did this with each other. I said I think most married couples do have sex, and we left it at that. When I told T this he laughed and said that Mr and Mrs Claus definitely do have sex. After all, they have all that mistletoe around the place.
So, what do you readers think? If a kid is young enough to still believe in Santa that they are too young for "the talk"?