So now that our family has made it's decision about parting ways with Uncle Sam the next big decision will be where to find our next job. T I think has his heart set on going back to Iowa where we did medical school and a fellowship. As much as I love the people in Iowa the weather makes me uneasy to say the least. I like four seasons as much as the next person. I just think that when three quarters of the year are miserable due to heat and humidity, frigid temps making it impossible to venture outside, or tornadoes blowing you over, that it kinda ruins most of your year, ya know? Call me a big baby I don't care. No amount of niceness or job friendliness for T can balance out an angry mother nature. Need I remind you that the last time we lived there the flooding covered an entire city? Lets not risk Iowa again please. Sorry to my Iowa friends- hang in there, maybe you'll be rewarded in heaven.
So staying in the East is an option but here are my concerns: My kids will grow up and want to date people and there are just not that many LDS options to choose from. I know, that is what college is supposed to be for and we can just cart them off to Utah right? Well, there are no guarantees that my boys will get in to BYU (Provo at least) Big Boy's grades were not as good as they could have been during his sophomore year. I hate to be the bad guy when pointing this sad fact out to him, but he may have just thrown BYU Provo out the window this year. We shall see... I worry about my Middle Boy attracting the wrong kind of girl out here. I know this may seem narrow-minded. There are wrong kinds of kids everywhere. I just want more of the right kinds for them to choose from and Utah may have a bigger box of chocolates (even though you never know what you're gonna get).
Utah also has cousins, grandparents, and mountains! Yeah! Being there for the funeral has me all pro-Utah. I have even been looking online at houses there. But there will be draw backs too. I will miss the diversity. I tried explaining this to my Dad on the phone today and he got all defensive saying that growing up without diversity turns out some pretty fine kids too. Yes, I am sure they turn out fine but when they grow up and move away and they have to order fries at McDonalds in East LA some day they will feel like they are about to be pick-pocketed at any second, and the nervousness will be detected by the McDonald's workers, making for a possible spitting-in-their food situation. Also, understanding the accent when they repeat back the order may prove tricky. I just want to give my kids more opportunities in life. You know what I mean by this? I don't want the black wise man in the nativity freaking them out as children. (This actually was my personal experience, not one I am proud of). I want open minded kids who will accept and feel comfortable around all types of people.
I hate it when people criticize Utah. I love Utah, but Utah has some problems y'all. Sometimes the people can be narrow minded and too much like TAMN. I ran into a couple TAMNs in church at my parents ward. It was nauseating. With their little girls dressed in big poofed out skirts and ginormous flowers in their heads. I hated that I was judging them until they were snotty to me and then I proceeded to judge. I am sure Utah will provide me with many such situations. Situations I am willing to put up with in order to be closer to family. I feel like I am being a bit snotty myself thinking that after years of living outside of Utah that I know a thing or two that I could teach. But really what living away has done for me is it has given me the gift of open mindedness, of not being too quick to judge a book by it's cover. Something Utah could use a spoonful of sometimes. I liked what my husband said (well I liked it at first before it sunk in and started to bug me) he said moving back to Utah would be like going from a plate of delicious spicy food to an unseasoned potato.... unbaked. You can now leave mean comments for my husband for that remark :)